See this woman?This woman went out on a date on Sunday evening. Her male companion said she went to her car and never came back. He called the police when he realised she was missing. After hours and hours of questioning and I suspect physical persuasion aka a good beating, he confessed to killing her and gave the cops the info which led them to find her body today. She was 40 years old. Mother of 4 children.Her 17 year old daughter had to identify her body today.
People think I am too cynical when it comes to love and dating, and trying new things aka online dating. I make jokes about the psychos out there and about how I imagine I would meet some dude and he would rape me or kidnap me or kill me. And I get "Oh Tamale, you are so negative."
This woman met a man online and after chatting with him for an undisclosed period of time, she went out with him on Sunday evening. She picked him up and they headed to the beach. This was their first date in person. He killed her that same evening. Beautiful woman with a job and kids. What was missing? Companionship. So she probably was too busy with 4 kids to go out and meet men and turned to the internet, where she met her end.
A distraught Daniella Boysie, 17, yesterday pleaded for the public’s help in locating her missing mother. “I want my mummy to come home. I want her home alive and well. I am writing exams and still have Geography and Biology to do next week. This has affected my studies,” the teen cried. Boysie is a sixth form student of Fyzabad Anglican Secondary School.
This could have been me, minus the kids. So no more Tamale being idle on these nutty sites with men in blue speedos professing their loneliness and desire to show me their sugar stick. Shutting it down. These fucking men make being single look like Utopia! Real life men. Cyber men. Men - they seem more and more like a lost cause in my life. The bitterness grows. I just need me a good loyal fluffy dog it seems.
Tamale
I don't know what to say. I don't think it is ever a good idea to meet someone that way, nor to go on a date with any stranger to a secluded area.
ReplyDeleteI don't blame you one bit for just wanting to stay away from men altogether, Tam.
I do not have much of an attachment to the place, but Keeping Connected Live has attracted quite a few JSers and I think it has a way of keeping your journal private. Something to consider anyhow.
ReplyDeleteHow terrible!
ReplyDeleteKCL does do private, but I don't really like it, even though there are tons of old JSers there.
BTW, my comp freezes when I try to run my email program so I'll give you my hotmail addy here. It's becomingkate@hotmail.com.
how sad. My son met his wife online, so it CAN be good. But the first date should never be alone! She should have brought a friend along.
ReplyDeleteThere are some sick people out there....
its sad and scary...weird thing- i met my current gf online and we have been together for almost 2 yrs. Sick physco people exist out there....people shud really be more careful
ReplyDeleteThis is a very disturbing, but all too frequent story. One thing that has occurred to me in the past is, see the widget over there on the right, the live traffic feed. This thing knows exactly what town, country one is in. To me that is very disturbing. There's nothing one can do about that if your blog is public, and I suppose even when it is private. This is one reason I don't want my name, or my family's name on my blog. It would be too easy to track. Because in addition to what you are talking about, there are also pedophiles lurking out there. Unfortunately, we live in a dangerous world.
ReplyDeleteDepressing indeed – but women were murdered by men they met on dates before the internet.
ReplyDeleteBut of course to go to meet a man for the first time, unaccompanied, is not a very wise thing to do under any circumstances. It’s not even a safe thing to do for another man. Walking down the street at night isn’t safe in many urban areas under any circumstances.
I read this and it sends chills down my spine
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