Thursday, January 22, 2009

The wicked Jesus/smurf combo


There are some people you should generally stay away from, when you get the flashing red light signal. Among them are

1. Those people who say "I am the nicest person you would ever hope to meet" and
2. Those people who swear their lives totally and utterly revolve around Jesus

Now I know this may stir some controversy, but in MY experience, these people have been the most deceitful cause you don't expect them to be, but you should really have not expected them to NOT be either.

Now I am not perfect and never claimed to be. What you see is usually what you get. I am quite nice, when I want to be, and with my friends and some family (lol), quite a gem. But I am not 100% nice. I am irritable and vile at times and quite intolerant of dotish people. I love Jesus but I don't go around preaching and being self-righteous - as if sin has never entered my life. What you see here, is usually what you get.

My boss is a wicked combo of the two. She made a comment yesterday at a meeting, which was so vile and insensitive towards me - sitting right in front of her - that I totally just shut her out for the rest of the day. I went over and hung out with the guys and related the comment to them, much to their disgust. This morning one of them came in and walked straight to my desk and told me he thought about what she had said all night and not only did it bother him, to know that it was directed to a friend, but also bothered him as an employee - to know that a manager could be so consciously insensitive.

My team-mate was also rather disturbed by it and raised it with the lady immediately after the comment was made, hoping it was a slip of the tongue, to which the lady responded - "Yes, I know what I said." She was hastily brushed off.

Today she (boss lady) had cause to retreat to her office - upset - stating that some people in the company were so unfeeling and so insensitive and this is one of the reasons the turnover is so high. How she is the "nicest person you can ever meet" and always has everyone's best interests at heart yet someone could be so unfeeling towards her.

Yep. Today when HER boss treated her the same way she treated me yesterday and she sought comfort from my team-mate, who reminded her of the comment she had made the day before. Only then, when faced with the reflection of her own words and actions did she ask, "It sounded so bad?" Only then did she summon me to her office to "free her heart" as she put it, and lie, saying it was a slip when I already knew it was said consciously, and ask for my forgiveness. And it was an apology so devoid of sincerity that I just inwardly sucked my teeth. Saying "no problem" is easy but I can never forget how the goodly Christian lady upset me and other people with her lack of tact and utter insensitivity.

I am not sad to be leaving the place. I am anxious about money and bills and being without meaningful activity for an extended period of time. But not sad about leaving some of that bullshit behind. I will miss the great people I have come to really like there but not the ones who claim they love Jesus when they don't live the way Jesus asks that we live. The ones whose hearts are supposedly so pure and big. Yeah...right. My girlfriend always used to say before she too left for greener pastures, that when she became a manager, her experiences with the lady would have taught her what NOT to be. I concur.

5 comments:

  1. Some people have no imagination: they also have a clear picture of themselves which is completely distorted. My late grandmother was like this; in her own mind she was a saint, and was quite unaware of how cruel or snide she sounded to everyone else. When it was pointed out to her she was genuinely baffled – not to say insulted. All that could be done was to ignore her.

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  2. I have known a few people who have no command of sensitive speech. They have no fear of pointing out whatever faults you might have, whoever may be listening. I avoid those people when I can.

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  3. One of my managers is not very nice and it really affects the office. It kills me because most of her nice gestures are fake, and she's already proven that her ambitions are priority over the others that work there.
    You have to wonder if these two are just bad karma waiting to happen.
    (That "free her heart" thing from boss lady - too much, lol)

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  4. I've run into that stuff at my workplace. I try to ignore their snide remarks... but I don't forget them. It's not worth making a scene... that only makes matters worse, especially since you still have to continue working with them. So I go through my days pretending nothing ever happened. But boy is that stressful... {hugs}

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  5. I always stay away from people who claim to be "nice" or the "nicest person" I'll ever meet. Anyone with half an ounce of self-reflection knows they are NOT the nicest person anyone will ever meet!

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